I’m sure you’ve all read articles about people who get scammed on the internet and you always think it will happen to the other person. When you’re interacting on the internet it’s with someone you don’t see so having a level of alertness about you is always a sensible thing. If you are careful and aware of potential problems then everything will go swimmingly. Here are some hints and tips to help you stay safe whilst having a fun and enjoyable experience!
Don’t share too much too soon
Obviously you need to post enough about yourself so people know who you are and your interests, but when you start that initial conversation be cautious of anyone asking anything too intimate or personal. You don’t need to give your home or work address and don’t send sexy pics no matter how cute they sound or what they have sent you. If someone is really interested in a relationship then any of this can wait…
Meet in public
This is perhaps the most basic of dating safety advice – but something always worth repeating as it is so important. When meeting someone you don’t know well (and sharing a few stories online doesn’t count as knowing someone well), always meet in a public place. Be it a park, a square, a restaurant or a bar – it’s somewhere with other people around and somewhere you can leave if you want to.
Tell other people where you are going
Once you’ve agreed to meet somewhere public, tell someone where you are going and who you are meeting and what time you’re expecting to be back. Agree to check in with them during the date and you could also arrange for them to call or text you at a pre agreed time so you can have an excuse to leave if you feel you need it.
Don’t Get Drunk!
That’s not to say that the odd drink to ease the nerves isn’t allowed (unless you’re driving), but know where your limits are! Alcohol has this amazing ability to encourage us to do something we may later regret, be it making a fool of yourself, wittering on about a bizarre interest or even debating your exes! If you feel you’ve strayed too far, excuse yourself and call an Uber.
Go with your Gut
If you’re getting a bad feeling then act upon it. Even if you dismiss sixth senses as a dodgy curry, if something doesn’t feel right don’t wait and see. Politely excuse yourself and leave. If they are a decent and honest person they won’t mind, if they are difficult about it then it should reinforce your decision to leave.
In general, be sensible and if in doubt leave. But don’t let any of this put you off internet dating, hundreds of thousands have found their ideal partner this way and you can too.
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